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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s a rule. No makeup until my DD is 13. End of conversation! No exceptions.

However, DD (now 11) has been pushing really hard for me to let her buy eyeliner (with her own money). She wants “dramatic” black eyeliner. I of course am putting my foot down. However she insists that she wants to[b] be “scene” (whatever [i]that[/i] means) [/b]and that I’m not letting her express herself. Ugh. I don’t want to cave. Should I?[/quote]

Why don't you know what that means? If you have an 11-year-old at max, you are probably mid-40s, and scene was definitely a thing when you were in your 20s, even if you didn't dress that way yourself.  This makes you seem judgmental, controlling, and condescending towards your daughter, which speels larger issues for you and your relationship with her outside of this current situation. You freak out and put her down over small potatoes stuff like this, it's not likely she's going to come to you or hear you on larger issues.
I'm not saying you have to let her do the mascara, or she'll become an alcoholic felon who never lets you see the grandkids. I'm saying if you show interest in her and her feelings and interests, explain why you think she's too young still, but you can empathize with her wanting a different style, she's more likely to come to you and take your advice about the serious stuff, versus hide it or go tosomone else who may or may not give good advice.[/quote]

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