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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No, don’t tell her. Your friendship will not survive this. Your complaints are also general, what can she do to help her child be less “spoiled and annoying”? Even if she wanted to address a certain behavior, it’s hard to change.

If it was something more specific, like child insists on playing dolls when the other child wants to do something else, or doesn’t help clean up, then it’s more specific and can be addressed.

So just say that your child is either busy, or at a friends house or something, or not up to a play date and meet elsewhere.

Kids go through phases, maybe they’ll become friends again, maybe they won’t, but telling her that her child is spoiled and annoying will be the end to your friendship.[/quote]

My child has had probably hundreds of complains over this girl over the years so it is hard to list all of them. A few examples:

When taking a photo, girl will step on her foot on purpose hard and jab her in the ribs. Then my child will not be smiling in photo.

Whenever we do anything, the child will shove and insist she have the best seat, the better view, the best of anything available. She will snatch the last cookie or sticker or anything that is available.

At any day that we see them, she will insult my child at least ten times per day. I often have to hear a list of all the mean things the girl has said to her that day. Her dress is ugly, her hair is messy, she doesn’t like her headband or bow, etc.[/quote]

None of this behavior is annoying. It's just mean. I wouldn't even say most of it is selfish -- most children display selfish behavior at times because it's linked to a very human instinct to protect resources. But what you are describing here is cruel, mean-spirited behavior, intended to wound your child.

If it were me I'd probably just say my DD needed a break and that it sounds like the girls don't get along. I would only provide examples if asked. I wouldn't lay it all out because I'd worry about the mom getting defensive and going on the offensive against me, or alternatively getting angry with her daughter and taking it out on her. This behavior is severe and may stem from family dysfunction, so I'd tread carefully.[/quote]

I do sense some dysfunction in their household. The mom has a very demanding career. I envy the mom professionally. The daughter talks back to her mom and dad constantly so I’m not sure they even notice how the girl treats others. I would be horrified if my child talked to others, both children and adults, the way this child did. They are constantly buying her things and often the most expensive and flashy item so then the girl shows off and puts others down.

If the girl snatches or pushes someone to get her way, the parents are right there and may say something like take turns but don’t seem to correct child’s behavior.[/quote]

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