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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No. I don’t like friend groups - the superficiality of the interactions isn’t for me - I am not enough of an extrovert that I enjoy just standing around and chatting for it’s own sake on a regular basis.

That said … now that I am older and have more free time, I think I would like a “friend group” that was actually an activity group. I’m going to start looking around for that. [/quote]

I find it very odd that you think a group of FRIENDS is sitting around being superficial. My closest friend group (about 12 couples total, 8 that are really the core) has been there for deaths, divorces, etc. We aren't just sitting around chatting about the weather. [/quote]

Chatting with 24 people is not exactly going deep!  My point is, those are not FRIENDS by my definition.  They are acquaintances.  That doesn't mean that you don't get social support from them, but the relationships are more superficial than I have energy for.  [/quote]

You're missing the point. We had a party back in December with around 25 adults in attendance. I wasn't speaking to all 25 of them at the same time. Instead, I was having conversations with one person, conversations with maybe 2-3 people, and then some larger conversations with maybe 4-6 people max. These people actually are my friends, and some of the things we discussed were deep. These are the people who show up at 5 am to watch your kids when you have to go to the hospital with your husband. The people who take your kids for the weekend so you can go to a funeral when your husband is deployed. The people who make dinner and invite your family over because they know you're going through a rough time. The people who go to court with you to testify on your behalf in your custody battle with a crazy ex. I'm sad for you that you don't have relationships like that that aren't superficial. [/quote]

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