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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s as acceptable as wives accept it. [/quote]

+1 No family member can exploit you without your consent. 
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I did end the relationship, but, please, let’s not pretend it’s simple or easy.

I was 6 mos. pregnant with #2 when I started to plan leaving. Abusive tendencies don’t come out in the beginning of a relationship, sometimes not for years until the abuser feels the woman is firmly on the hook and can’t get away. And, yes, using someone else to do your mental and physical labor is an abuse of power even if it doesn’t involve physical abuse.

Ending the relationship took a serious amount of financial capital and a big social support network. I suffered from gaslighting and attempts at coercive control. And, while I left the man, the “extra child” behavior continues to this day - 2 decades later.  Yes, I grey rock him, only communicate in writing (slowly and briefly), and just pay for everything myself because asking him to contribute his fair share just opens us all to more contact and bad behavior, but leaving the extra child doesn’t end the behavior although it does limit the space it takes up in our daily lives. [/quote]

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