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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]SHE's the one with issues, OP. It's going to be difficult to be her friend, because SHE keeps making bad judgements.

Tell her he's going to weigh her down with his issues; and that you don't want her to bring him to your house without warning, because last time you were in your PJs.

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TBH, the worst of her bad judgement calls is spilling out to you all the things she doesn’t like about him because she obviously does like him enough to keep seeing him and giving him increasingly more significance in her life.
If you say anything at all (and I’m not saying you should)—it should be to caution her that you feel a little awkward about hearing all the negative thoughts about how she feels about him because it makes it more difficult for you to loser him in a positive light, and the more serious they get, you really want to like him and show support.

Stating it like this will show her the misalignment of her words and actions without making you look critical of him. And this will preserve the friendship.

It does not appear that she is going to stop seeing him, so you need to stop allowing her to use you as a sounding board for her negativity IF she wants you to support the relationship.[/quote]

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