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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I meant I would not engage.  I just didn't communicate much.  I stopped responding much.  I did my own things and didn't talk about them much with my spouse.[/quote]
So instead of communicating with your SPOUSE and saying “what you are doing is hurting my feelings” or figuring out a better way to communicate, you abandoned your spouse and family life?

Is this how you usually deal with things not going your way with them?[/quote]

No, my spouse knew I was upset about all the dismissiveness. I talked about it with my spouse and then during marriage counselling with different marriage counselors. I'm the one who asked for marriage counseling.  Unfortunately spouse did not change. I don't think I am an irresponsible person or a narcissist.  I do admit I "stonewalled" after my spouse was very contemptuous for years.

Some of you sound like the kinds of people who treat your spouses very dismissively and disrespectfully but still think you are good spouses because you don't hit anyone and don't cheat.  If you are that kind of person, you could be in for a divorce sometime in the future. People like that are not good spouses. You don't have to take my word for it. Read Gottman. Couples are more likely to break up for stuff like that than for cheating or abuse. Surprising I know, but I experienced it.[/quote]

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