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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have 2 kids, 9 and 12. 
My husband has had rocky work situation and because of that, most of the burden has fallen on me. I would have liked to have had 3 kids, but i felt i couldn't add one more considering all the pressure that I'm under. 
All of this makes sense EXCEPT:
1.I still have sadness and regret, despite the pragmatic reasons
2. the sadness and regret then cause resentment
3. I've actually done pretty well (although might not have with 3 kids). 
4. Not dealing super well with the passage of time and wish i had one more younger one

I guess the tldr is part of my brain feels sad that I didn't just decide to have a more modest life and another kid instead of prioritizing financial security. Like a grown up.

Can anyone relate? Or no, I'm just a dummy who lives in cloud cuckoo land and need to get my sh*t together, psychologically? (or both can be true)[/quote]

I had to check this was not a ghost thread someone revived and I actually wrote a year ago and forgot… seriously I could have written that. And my kids are same age but I have had that feeling for a while. Each year making it clearer that there was nothing I could do to change it…

It is hard but I try to be grateful for what I have, 2 healthy kids and indeed financial stability. I also wonder if i would still have wanted one last young kid even with 3 (a friend with 3 is there).

My only advice : enjoy the fact that you do have more time to spend with each of your kid and make the most of it.[/quote]

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