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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I never felt like my worth came from being a wife. Ever. Didn’t you feel pride in yourself when you were 17? Are you a good daughter? Sister? Friend? Neighbors? [/quote]

I think women are pressure to define themselves in terms of their relationship to others, so thinking about how you’re a good neighbor, friend, etc doesn’t really solve this problem.

OP, you are inherently worthwhile as a standalone human being. The problem is that your spouse couldn’t see that and honor it. That’s a reflection of them, not you. [/quote]

I never felt that pressure. Getting married wasn't a goal, wasn't an achievement I was trying to reach. So maybe you bought into that talk, but either I never heard that type of talk or I ignored it because it seemed out of line with what I wanted. [/quote]

Congratulations?  What does this post add to the thread?[/quote]

Not PP who wrote that, but PP adds another data point to the idea that there are many women who do not base their self worth on marriage. It might help OP to see more posts like these. It might challenge OP to explore ways to change her mindset and evolve.[/quote]

DP. But yes. OP seems to be assuming a universal experience of praise for being a wife. But it would be useful for her to widen her view. [/quote]

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