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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m currently separated from my stbxh and I don’t see a reconciliation on the horizon. Among one of the hardest realities here is how my sense of self has changed. If I am not a wife and mother and I do not have a man who actively loves me and commits to me, what am I worth?

[b]We receive so much validation in society as women for having been picked by a man, a high value man. And to be a wife and a mother is seen as the highest achievement. You have a lavish wedding and a baby shower to celebrate this milestone.[/b]

But what if you were never able to hit this milestone or it did not work out.

I’m feeling pretty terrible about it. 💔[/quote]

Sorry you are feeling terrible about the dissolution of your marriage, but you should tone down your " high value" rhetoric.

Who is this "we" you speak of? You and Hillary Clinton? These are modern times. People are shouting from the top of the hill, urging women to have lives, careers, hobbies. If you did not listen, we will still support and uplift you. But don't claim women's self worth are tied to their spouses being " high value" men and lavish weddings.

My sister is happily divorced. She has a great career and wonderful friends. Most of the women I know would be in a similar situation to my sistder. Sure, they will miss the love/romance they once shared with their spouses. But this " high value" men talk is ridiculous.[/quote]

I am sorry while your experience has been different, I think OP's view is more likely to be the view that's prevalent on our society today.

Now I think it's generational. I don't millennial and Gen Z women will feel this way. But Gen X women probably will.[/quote]

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