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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We both work demanding and rewarding jobs, and we have a baby and a toddler.

We have a wonderful nanny 8-5 M-F and she is great about picking up after our kids - we don’t want to ask more of her.

We have a weekly cleaner who does cleaning but nothing else (she is also a bit unreliable).

Outside of work, we want our time to be spent with our kids, and on special work and family projects - not washing bottles / doing dishes / cleaning high chair / laundry / house work and yard work / etc. (And it would be amazing to have any time for ourselves too!).

Those of you who have multiple kids and demanding careers - what help has worked well for you? And how do you not make it feel like you constantly have employees in your home?

(Please don’t say we shouldn’t have two kids or someone has to stay home - we like our life, we just want more time. Thanks).[/quote]

-You could increase the cleaning to twice per week and do Monday/Thursday or Monday/Friday

-You could hire a gardening company for yardwork

-Do more 2:1 activities so you get breaks for personal time (if one or both kids nap use this time)

-Accept if you want a clean home and yard and don’t want to do the work that the people doing the work for you will be present in your home (you can plan not to be there when they are, but there will probably be overlap).

-Reframe your expectations. I understand the exhaustion that comes from cleaning up but your kid seeing you clean or helping you clean or helping you garden or fold laundry may help them respect the work that goes into keeping your household running and everything isn’t always going to be fun.

I have three kids and my youngest is almost 2.5. The baby/toddler phase is physically tough, but the mental load as the kids get older has been harder for me to navigate because it’s harder to outsource. [/quote]

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