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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Let him buy it if he wants. It won’t be a bad investment. But also, you’ve only been together for 1.5 years. And you don’t see each other constantly. So… realize a lot changes. You’re absolutely right to not blend the families as that’s almost invariably a disaster for the kids, especially as they approach middle school. Your relationship will last longer and be happier if you make life easy for yourselves when you’re together, but enjoy your time apart. Focus on your kids when you aren’t together as you are. You sound like a great mom. Curious why your marriages fell apart when you’re still relatively young? Have both of you done the work?[/quote]
My ex was seeing prostitutes on business trips for multiple years (including during my pregnancies ugh) while at home we were having sex 2x a week, happy, and loving even by his account. I could not get over the betrayals and health risks he imposed on me and our unborn babies who were not easy to conceive. Or the financial betrayal along with that as we were strapped during the daycare years. I was giving myself and kids haircuts, buying second hand clothes, and cooking dinner 7 nights a week to save money while he was spending on that. I have done biweekly therapy regularly since my best friend died when I was 20yo and I ended up finding so much value in therapy that I continued throughout my college years, building career years, trying to conceive, transitioning to motherhood, and then the divorce.
Boyfriend's ex left him for a female coworker. He did 2.5 years of weekly therapy while he was trying to figure out and fix the disconnect in his marriage (spoiler alert: closeted orientations can't be fixed) and subsequently throughout the dissolution process. [/quote]

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