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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow, so holidays mean something…to you.

Holidays come with expectations…for you.

And your brother is his own person, who clearly doesn’t share that priority or expectations.

OK.

Would you rather he and his wife and kids never see you and your family, but show up randomly three or four days a year for holidays? Or might you feel grateful that you see them more regularly, have a good relationship, but do your own thing for holidays?

Why do some people act like holidays are such a must-do, performative thing? My brother and his partner sometimes join us for holidays, sometimes not. They didn’t want to join our Thanksgiving this year, but we have plans to see them the next weekend. OK![/quote]
This. I suspect large family gatherings are emotionally tough for his wife since she has no family left.
Not exactly the same, but I decided when the kids were little that [b]actual holidays are for nuclear family[/b]. I did not want to drag my kids to someone’s house for Christmas or Easter not did I want to host on those days.  Christmas and Easter in my nuclear family are relaxing - stay in your pajamas half the day for unwrapping.  I love not having the stress of a holiday meal when I wanted to enjoy my day with my children, watching the joy on their faces and hearing the squeals of excitement. [/quote]

What happens when you are widowed and alone?[/quote]

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