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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It doesn't matter that you think your way of celebrating is better or more fun.  Sorry but its not an exercise in who's Christmas plans are better.  Stop thinking that matters.  You need to think of some way to alternate Christmas that looks approximately fair.  Either alternate 1st and 2nd week of the winter break or switch on Dec. 26 every year.  In the years your kids are with you ex you make Dec. 26 your Christmas or make NYE your big celebration.  I would also recommend you alternate spring break.  The rest of the holidays are less important.[/quote]

I think saying NYE can be a big celebration as an alternative to Christmas Eve is something that works in a secular family but is an inappropriate and pale substitution if a child and one parent are religious. [/quote]

Yes, but 1) the child is likely too young to be “religious”, and more importantly, 2) I have a feeling that mom’s devotion to her faith is being exaggerated to justify getting Christmas Eve/Christmas every year. Usually people that are super religious don’t marry agnostics or get divorced.

Does Mom go to church? Sure, but I don’t think this is significant enough to deny dad parenting time.[/quote]

DC and I are catholic, DC goes to catholic school and goes to mass with me every weekend and is an altar server and all that. All of this is stuff than STBX was on board with. STBX is Episcopalian but non-observant, but not agnostic. He likes having a religious kid and the connection to catholic school circles, he likes making his parents happy by having a religious kid, but doesn’t like the obligations of mass, religious ed, etc. for himself, so I do all that.

I’m definitely not a crazy catholic since I married outside of my faith and only have one kid, but divorce definitely wasn’t my choice. [/quote]

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