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[quote=Anonymous]15:52 - MIL IS THAT YOU?  BECAUSE YOU MAKE NO SENSE.

OP, you need to have that woman less involved in your life.  My MIL used to come over for bragging rights only.  She actually expected me (an exhausted, nursing first time brand new mom) to leave my own house.  She was in no way helping, but we wanted her involved.  But needless to say, sometimes it is just not worth it.

My MIL and I are polar opposites, which is fine, no one should be the same - how boring would that be!? But really, she needs to back off.  If your DH won't do it (he may have been abused/ignored/worse by her as well); there is no law saying you can't be short and sweet and concise telling her to back off yourself:  "no we have it, thanks." If she pushes, you can push back.  Put it on her.  She wants to push, so push back.  She may or may not ever learn boundaries, but it does not have to be your problem.

It is YOUR time.  Don't let her issues try to take away from a significant time in your life!   Don't give her what she wants.  She can NOT tear you and DH apart.  She should be a non-issue.

As for the naysayers or "maybe its yous", be glad and GRATEFUL if you have a nice, decent, minimal-issue MIL.  Otherwise, back off if you are not one yourself.

Signed, BTDT.  GL OP, you are not alone.

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