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[quote=Anonymous]So, I am the main caregiver for my mom (even though now she is memory care, there is still a lot of work). Sibling doesn't even call, I call him on her birthday, etc. Over the past 4 years I have spent countless hours on her care, from downsizing and moving her out of her home of 50 years (and then overseeing renovations and renting and dealing with so many hassles--all from afar, even though sibling is closer) to a million doctor/dentist/podiatrist/cardiologist/neurologist/gastro/urgent care/er appointments, getting hair done, taking her shopping/getting clothes altered, doing her finances and taxes, picking up all her supplies now, communicating with her friends once she lost the ability to do so, and I will be the executor of her estate. I am trying to keep track of the big tasks, though I don't track the regular check in visits 3-4x/week I do for the longer ER visits, the doctors, the accounting/taxes, etc. I also put on a lot of miles on my car, which I suppose I should keep track of.  In fact, I kind of forgot about keeping track lately since I've been so busy, but was reminded of it yesterday when I was cleaning up a poop explosion. If you haven't been there, be grateful.

When my mother passes, i will take whatever amount this comes to at  maybe 25-30$$/hr out of a joint account we are both on, and the rest is split with sibling. But I'm not doing it now, in case she needs the money.

OP, 80/hr seems high, but if the money is there and your one sibling doesn't care, go for it.  Between work, teen kids, a spouse, and my parent, I am tapped out. Sibling has plenty of money, no kids, just a girlfriend and lots and lots of free time. I feel no guilt and my mom would absolutely want it that way.

Also, finally, please make sure that someone (preferably you as you are doing it) is POA for financial and medical. [/quote]

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