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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If he has a job and a family, he's consternation a functional adult so there's no point in chasing down a diagnosis ‐‐ that's what ASD DH's psychiatrist and nuerologist have said[/quote]

False. You need to know what’s going on and what targeted treatments for all to do. And then if willing.

I thought my husband needed a brain scan he was dropping the ball so much executive function-wise and forgetting previous communications and decisions we made about our house, family and kids.

Then I got books on passive aggressive men things were going so badly once the kids arrived in the scene.

Then I spent more time with his family overseas and saw it was all cluelessness, not malice. Not cultural. But dangers, poor judgment (kid safety, easily avoidable bad situations, falling for scams)  and dropped balls were still rampant.

Maybe it was adhd? Maybe it was asd? Maybe it was narcissism? Meanwhile I was as being emotionally and verbally abused. He didn’t want to talk about anything or have responsibilities or try to remember what was decided. He’d explode, stonewall, threaten divorce to shut down normal conversations. He’d hide behind his iPhone and work all the time, go to bed at 9pm and wake at 5am, ignore us all, put on a short show for outsiders then crash all weekend. No ability to regulate his emotions (which was mainly anger and rage). His explosion cycles got more frequent,  Things were bad, and we had a 2 and 4 yo.

I’d sit at work in a sickening daze. I didn’t know whether to see a divorce attorney or the police or doctors or move out with the kids. I started disclosing this to close friends and family. Books were recommended. Adhd perhaps, that’s more easily treatable.

In some moment of lucidity, he agreed to get a neurosych test. I didn’t know wtf was going on with him, but I had adult friends on Ritalin or adderol. I know now he took the test to “prove to everyone he was fine.”

He still denies his DX. But the DX helped me find targeted psychologists for me to cope and him to try to baby step new habits into his life— greet your family members in the morning, say good night, take a walk outside and don’t explode, leave the house for 3 days if you do fly into the rage in front of your wife and kids, do DBT therapy (he refused, too busy).

His Dx was adhd, asd, bipolar II, anxiety and depression.

He only agrees to take Lexapro, which he forgets many days.

We live parallel lives and he mainly works.

Family courts don’t and won’t care.

Kids are middle school now and will be in therapy soon to learn to set boundaries. One has adhd and HFA ASD as well, shall see how it plays out. [/quote]

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