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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here is the thing. He is not doing it intentionally. He is impulsive. So, having him write a letter each time will not help with his impulsiveness or that he seeks attention. A child that elopes will keep eloping even if you hit them on the bottom each time. I work in SPED. Have him write down a list of jokes. That list gets shared at recess for laughs. Appropriate time to be silly and goofy. So he is not name calling but instead telling jokes for laughs. [/quote]

I have an older DC with ADHD who struggled socially when you  bf er because even when medicated their couldn’t manage their impulse control. My DC absolutely knew what the “right” thing to do was, but they didn’t have the impulse control to do it. DC was medicated and the stimulant did help a LOT with things like emotional regulation and attention, and did curb the impulse control, but not enough for these kind of social situations.

DC was also (truly) sorry for their behavior after, but even if you say sorry to another child, it doesn’t erase the hurt feelings. That was actually hard for my DC to understand for a while - they said sorry but friends didn’t just accept it and move on. It meant that DC struggled socially for several years, and ruined friendships. It was really tough.

Unfortunately, medication and therapy didn’t help DC in the short term, although I think they were helpful in the longer term. Ultimately, DC just got older and managed to get better at impulse control. DC also realized that they wanted friends more than they wanted whatever felt good in that impulsive moment, and stopped. It started getting better around age 10. Now, at age 12, DC doesn’t have problems any more due to impulsivity. DC still at the same medication level as at age 8, so that hasn’t changed with time.

I think replacing the behavior, as PP recommended is more likely to be helpful to OP than strategies for stopping the impulsive behavior, which I don’t think is very likely to happen without medication changes. [/quote]

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