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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They may have friends, connections, clubs, church, whatever there. Uprooting them from their entire life context would be selfish and cause both to decline.[/quote]

Unfortunately when cognitive ability (and driving and hearing) goes, those things go to. And their peer group starts so die off, move away, or no longer participate. It's sad but it's the reality. They would be better off moving near OP so that OP could support them in having those things. Even though they will never see it that way. [/quote]

100% this, I am dealing with it now. Parents live on one coast, all kids live on the opposite coast, no one will move. Parents should have moved 10 years ago and built a community while they could, like many of their friends who moved to be near kids and grandkids, but they were having fun. Now the remaining friends are dead or housebound, parents have no support, and there's nothing their kids can do about it. Parents seemed to have planned on dying abruptly, not declining.

OP, I think it's worth having the frank discussion, even though they probably still won't move. Ask them (or have DH ask them) what their plan is for when they can't drive or when they have an emergency. Say that you're worried about them, because if something happens where they are you will not be able to help. At least then you will have set the expectation. Leave the door open to helping them move near you if they change their minds. [/quote]

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