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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My in-laws are almost 80 and live in a rural area about 5 hours from DC. They are financially secure and and independent for now but cognitive ability is slipping with one of them. FIL said his plan may ultimately be to move into the local assisted living home.

if things head in that direction it would be easier and better for everyone for him or them to closer to us so that we can be there for hospital visits and emergencies. [b]I've also seen first-hand how people without family are neglected or stolen form in these types of facilities. [/b]

I wonder how feasible it is to care for a parent so many hours away, while also working full-time?[/quote]

Oh,  this is very hard.  I can give you some suggestions for now. We did the same for my parents and it has worked ok, But, what works best is proximity and constant monitoring.  Can you make a trip every month to their house? It is easier than taking care of them every day.

1) Take a good inventory of their finances. Make sure that they are not scammed or their accounts hacked.  You can take over their bill payments remotely and monitoring their accounts.

2) Employ yard maintenance companies, house cleaning company - directly.  You pay for it.

3) Remove anything of value from their home that can be stolen.

4) CCTV.  Ring Cam. Medical alarm.

5) Elderproof and disability proof their house.  My relatively young neighbors are already installing chairlifts and elevators in prep of aging in place.

6) Find your local support team.  Drs, nurses, companions, shoppers, drivers, home hairdressers  etc.

7) Get their legal and financial papers in order.  Get them to make a will, give you the general power of attorney, advance directives etc. [/quote]

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