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[quote=Anonymous]So many ways that the abusive environment I grew up in (physical and verbal) impacted me, that I'm probably not even aware of. But here's a few:

It made me not have a serious relationship until I was well into my 30's.

I married someone who is annoyingly passive (so I over corrected).

I am VERY intentional/careful about discipline w/ my kids.

I've spent 6 years in therapy.

I closely controlled my father's access to my kids for as long as he was alive (and intervened on occasion w/ my nephew's access/treatment).

I spent most of my life struggling to know who I am, what I want, feel ok in my own skin, etc...  My childhood was profoundly damaging.

It has also made me extraordinarily intuitive about the needs and moods of others - which can make me a great friend, mother, boss, manager, etc... And I'm resilient. I'm the gal you want in a crisis because I stay calm and I solve everyone's problems.

So there were some survival skills I had to learn as a child that have served me well as an adult. But that's the tiniest of sliver linings mostly.

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