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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP. When she tried out and got on the team I specifically asked if she would be actually playing versus sitting on the bench. The coach said yes she’ll be playing. So I’m feeling a bit duped but it’s only been a tournament so far not regular games so maybe that’s part of it? The first reg game is an away game and going to that for her to sit most of it is whats bothering me. I’m just not sure whether to be quiet for now, or say something. [/quote]

OP, I would have a two-pronged approach. To your dd, I'd emphasize that supporting your team is part of the game and that working harder/improving will likely lead to more minutes. To the coach, I'd enquire about their philosophy about game minutes, gently ask if there are things she could do to get more playing time, and ask the coach for a heads up if they don't think dd is going to play much so that you can either skip or send her with another family who can do the driving.

But once you get their philosophy -- one that you do or don't agree with -- you will know where you stand and can make decisions as to stay or go.

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Not OP but interested- agree kid can learn to support team and from watching and listening, but at what point do you look to exit if not being played? Assume best to try and exit earlier if told expect 5-10 at most and seeing it dent into kids confidence.[/quote]

Anecdotally, if there is a way out, I'd take it ASAP. We stuck out a bad year, and my kid's confidence was crushed and never recovered. They got passed up by kids on a lower team who actually played.  [/quote]

Thanks for this comment, we are going through this now.  If opening tournament playtime is an indicator of how the year will go, then we should look for another club now. My kid is already confused why they are being put in with just a few minutes left or being taken out so soon at age 10.  Coach is more concerned with winning than developing.  My kid is not as good as some of the kids, but she will never be developed if they aren't even in the fight; thus she is doomed to decline in ability compared to her teammates.  I think we need to switch teams and clubs.  We are doing extra training, but I don't think the Coach  is noticing the extra effort.  Also, my kid's confidence is starting to sink.   [/quote]

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