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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Easy. Don’t visit. Go low contact. [/quote]

This is not acceptable. We owe it to our parents to help them in their old age.

OP, is this new behavior? Any medical issues/ drugs that could be causing this?

I would not force my spouse to be a part of the visits. I would go myself out of obligation and take one kid at a time; maybe they are overwhelmed by the visits. As soon as the negative talk starts, I would change the subject and refuse to engage. If you spend the entire visit talking about the color the neighbors chose to paint their house, so be it.[/quote]

I think this is mostly right.  I don't think your parents are badly behaved enough to cut off.  It's not like estrangement solves the problem anyway-  it's just a different kind of hard (although in some situations it's the less hard option).

Are they local or within driving distance? I would go with 1 or both kids, stay for a few hours, and redirect the conversation per the advice above so they can't dwell on the negative too much.  Maybe you can bring lunch over- that will kill some time.

If you have to travel to see them, stay in a hotel.[/quote]

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