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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don't interview me! She didn't really try to get to know me, I felt like it was an interview. And I felt like she was just there for her, she didn't really try to get to know me. It was mostly about her. It should be about us. Am I wrong? Isn't a first date the opportunity to know about each other. She spent a lot of time taking about herself which is okay. But [b]I am disappointed because I had so much to share [/b]

There won't be a second date. [/quote]

No, there won't, and the bolded is a bit part of why.

Bro, the first date IS an interview! We've gotta suss out if your IRL persona aligns reasonably well enough with your OLD profile/persona, look for any obvious red flags, get a general sense of what you're looking for, and see if you're reasonably aligned with what we're looking for. What else is an interview, if not these "are you qualified for this position"-type questions?

We're not there for you to share with. Get a therapist for that. The sort of guy who has a narrative agenda for a first date is a problem. He either wants an object, or someone who he can control, or a mommy/shrink he can talk at, not with.

Go into a first date thinking it'll be awkward, commit to be honest with yourself and your date, and don't have any expectations beyond "i'm going to spend some time with a new person today". All of a sudden, it's way less intense and actually kinda fun. [/quote]

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