I know someone who sends a 100 question list to their matches.

Classic video for this thread:
https://www.reddit.com/r/TikTokCringe/comments/15nurj7/pov_youre_on_a_date_with_a_woman_in_her_30s/

It's pretty clear OP needs social skills training.

Anonymous wrote:OP wants a giggling hottie who will stroke his arm, tell him he’s super interesting, and put out asap.

Don’t all men?

OP wants a giggling hottie who will stroke his arm, tell him he’s super interesting, and put out asap.

Anonymous wrote:Don't interview me! She didn't really try to get to know me, I felt like it was an interview. And I felt like she was just there for her, she didn't really try to get to know me. It was mostly about her. It should be about us. Am I wrong? Isn't a first date the opportunity to know about each other. She spent a lot of time taking about herself which is okay. But I am disappointed because I had so much to share

There won't be a second date.

No, there won't, and the bolded is a bit part of why.

Bro, the first date IS an interview! We've gotta suss out if your IRL persona aligns reasonably well enough with your OLD profile/persona, look for any obvious red flags, get a general sense of what you're looking for, and see if you're reasonably aligned with what we're looking for. What else is an interview, if not these "are you qualified for this position"-type questions?

We're not there for you to share with. Get a therapist for that. The sort of guy who has a narrative agenda for a first date is a problem. He either wants an object, or someone who he can control, or a mommy/shrink he can talk at, not with.

Go into a first date thinking it'll be awkward, commit to be honest with yourself and your date, and don't have any expectations beyond "i'm going to spend some time with a new person today". All of a sudden, it's way less intense and actually kinda fun.

Sounds like it was not a match.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How can she both be hardcore interviewing you and at the same time not trying to get to know you at all? Sounds like thats exactly what she was trying to do?

Is engaging in conversation now too difficult for men?

When women "interview" men they are not interested in their responses, they are fishing for red flags. You cannot have a genuine connection with someone if you are waiting for gotchas.

What’s wrong with this? Should we not identify any red flags immediately? I’m very confused as to why you’re advocating for… not looking for red flags.

Dating is dangerously for women. One wrong rejection and you could end up dead. If you cannot understand why women would want to get the basic red flags out of the way early, you should not be allowed around women.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How can she both be hardcore interviewing you and at the same time not trying to get to know you at all? Sounds like thats exactly what she was trying to do?

Is engaging in conversation now too difficult for men?

When women "interview" men they are not interested in their responses, they are fishing for red flags. You cannot have a genuine connection with someone if you are waiting for gotchas.

Nah, they are looking for compatibility

Anonymous wrote:How can she both be hardcore interviewing you and at the same time not trying to get to know you at all? Sounds like thats exactly what she was trying to do?

Is engaging in conversation now too difficult for men?

Yeah, I was thinking the same thing!!

I've been told by a couple guys that our date felt like an interview and my response was that I know what I want and believe I shouldn't wast their time. The guys I said this to were totally on board with this idea. One I dated for a year and a half, the other 3 months. My husband never said this to me because he was in the same place - we got serious quickly, dated for 3 years, then married - that was 22 years ago. BTW we are both successful and driven people who know what we want out of life. I cannot be with someone who doesn't what they want.

Anonymous wrote:Women have a long list of requirements for a man to meet in order to be considered worthy.

There's a reason so many women are single.

And a reason why do many men are single!!

Anonymous wrote:I am the PP who just said OLD is a slog. Forgot to mention, I DID meet my husband on OLD. As well as another guy I dated for several months. But, I also had at least 20 meh first dates and 5 or 6 horrible first dates over two stints of OLD. Other than DH and the other boyfriend, no second dates.

Similar but I went on 100+ first dates, maybe 10 second dates and three relationships, one of which is DH.

Anonymous wrote:OP here again. And not once did she follow up to anything I said. Let me give one specific example. I told her I wrote software for avionics. Now most people will follow up and want to know more, no she just pivot to something about herself. I am done with OLD.

It’s not OLD’s fault, this is the majority of the population, male or female.

Just keep swimming/fishing!

I am the PP who just said OLD is a slog. Forgot to mention, I DID meet my husband on OLD. As well as another guy I dated for several months. But, I also had at least 20 meh first dates and 5 or 6 horrible first dates over two stints of OLD. Other than DH and the other boyfriend, no second dates.

Anonymous wrote:You sound dramatic. Stop dating.

Have you done OLD? I have been married for nearly two decades but still shudder when I think of my OLD experience. It is a long, hard slog. People are rarely how they appear in their profiles -- and I am not talking about deliberate deception, though there is some of that, too, but just that it is so hard to get a sense of people from profiles. Anyway, just saying, i think OP just wants to vent because he is tired of the process. He was probably excited about this woman and thought they would be a good fit and then the date was terrible. It is not that deep. Just a vent.