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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel like you understand the consequences of your options.  [b]If you don't allow some sort of electronic device, particularly an apple one, she will be left out.[/b]  And, she will know and she will feel it.  And, it won't just be on texts and group chats.  But, she won't get included in activities because they are planned on texts and group chats.  OTOH, if you give her a phone, you will have to monitor it and teach her how to use it in accordance with your values.

Personally, I opted for the phone.  You gotta work with your kids at some point to navigate use of electronics and managing drama so you might as well do it at the point where it is necessary to avoid the adverse consequences on their relationships and social lives.  [/quote]

Omg, does an Apple marketing dept employee shill-post here??? Nobody's social life died because they didn't have an iPhone. Let me tell you the secret about popular kids: they will still be popular even if they communicate by carrier pigeon. It's not the brand of phone they have or the brand of athleisure they wear, it's how they command attention. [/quote]

OP and good lord, this isn’t about popularity. This is about kids who don’t go to the same schools, don’t live in the same neighborhoods, and want to talk to each other and keep in touch. A bunch of tween girls who spend most of their time swimming are definitely not chasing popularity. I’m trying to figure out a reasonable substitute for the landline and doorbells and bikes that I grew up with. You’re not adding anything helpful to this thread.[/quote]

You have no clue what you are talking about. You already lost the plot. “Popularity” really?
Yes swimmers can be popular you are already too far behind in your parenting skills.

Stop living in 1970

Your kid wants not to be left out. However she already has seen stuff you think she has not .

Phones are a reality teach your child how to use them responsibly.

Phones are also expensive not all families can afford them. Did you think of that OP no you didn’t. Because you are too focused on controlling your kids and not raising them to be responsible adults.

A fifth grader can absolutely have a phone.

They should be taught the financial responsibilities, ie how much it costs per month. I love it when kids graduate from college and their parents are still paying their phone bill and the young adult has no idea how much phones cost.  They failed to raise adults.

IF you are paying for  the phone it not theirs and can be taken away at any time if privileges are abused ,  you need to teach your child how to use it safely. Yes that means you randomly check what they are texting posting it’s not a diary it’s social media.

Parenting is an every day thing.

Yes get her a phone it’s past time. Also make sure you had the sex talk already. My guess is you have not hope I’m wrong. 
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This is an unhinged take on a basic question. Is everything ok?[/quote]

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