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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Does he outearn you? or are you equal?
Lower income spouse should do more[/quote]

Incorrect. [b]Spouse who has more time at home does more.[/b] If you are both away from the house 9 hours a day then you both do equal chores. Just because I make more than my spouse doesn't make my free time more valuable than theirs.[/quote]

I hope you mean more time at home not working. Luckily my husband and I both work from home, but I think the people who don't value the time at home that is spent working are jerks. When I work from home, that is not 8-10 hours of time to do other stuff as well - I'm working! Of course it brings with it a certain level of flexibility, like the ability to move laundry during calls, which I greatly value, but any spouse who doesn't value working time if it's done from home is a real problem.

I view the calculation as to who does what as a combination of multiple things, but my husband and I have flip flopped back and forth on who earns more over the years so that to us has rarely been a factor but maybe that's also because we earn roughly the same (within about $75K of each other). To us it's mostly a matter of non-work time. If one of us is busier at work, whether that's traveling or more calls or just needing to work harder, then the other picks up the slack. The default is 50/50, but it'll shift depending on how things are going. When we're both really busy, we'll outsource more (i.e. order dinner/eat out), and when we're less busy it means we get more family time. We also consider how hard the other is working - some days are pretty easy and they don't drain you, others are exhausting because of what you're doing, so to me, even working 8 hours one day isn't the same as working 8 hours another day. Thankfully we're able to communicate about that and we respect each other's statements on how we feel and will step up accordingly. 
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