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[quote=Anonymous][quote]Hmm. I opened this post because my mom is also mentally ill, and my dad was also an enabler, but I don't think we are in the same situation since my dad is generally a nice person, just exceedingly passive and unassertive and without the strength of character to stand up for his kids. He's pleasant enough and normal to talk to. In light of that, I've decided to put aside the past and maintain a friendly but not super close relationship with him (we do holidays, birthdays, and lunch maybe once a month, either me or my son stop in briefly once a week on the weekend to help him with some household tasks). I'm happy with this choice, but if my dad were an egotistical conspiracy theorist, I would not do this.

Thank you for sharing your experience. My dad is nice on the surface but once you get to know him better (like I did after years of barely any contact which btw he wasn’t unhappy about, or at least he never showed he wanted more of my company until he became dependent on me) he is, well, not so nice.
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Under those circumstances, I would probably try to hire someone to help him with the meds and other tasks, and just see him every other week or so for lunch or dinner.  Also, do you have any neutral things in common with him?  My dad and I are both fans of the same baseball team, and try to watch at least one common tv show (separately) so that we have some neutral things to talk about, more because he is not good at conversation than due to a problem with the content of what he says.[/quote]

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