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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have been in an unhappy marriage and am now in a happy marriage. At peak unhappiness in the unhappy marriage, I considered some form of open relationship out of sheer desperation (I didn't want a mostly lonely, mostly sexless marriage to be my whole life-- but I had young kids and also did not want to get divorced). I imagined that – maybe! – a sexual relationship with another man could take some of the pressure off my marriage. Did not go through with it, though. And it was clear to me even then that an open marriage was not what I wanted, it was just something that was maybe, possibly, marginally better than the available alternatives at that moment.

In the end I got divorced, met someone else and am [b]now in a happy marriage. And I cannot imagine "opening it up." It's too precious to risk it for the sake of sex with a few more people.[/b][/quote]

This! I don't find monogamy thrilling every second of every day, but I love my spouse and I really love our family and I just see how me sleeping with other people would benefit any of those relationships. I'd rather deal with the downsides of monogamy than risk blowing up my marriage.[/quote]

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