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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP what are you going for now? Are you trying to meet someone to start a family with now? If so, what are you considering "too old" for you to date?

What were you doing between 30 and 46? Were you actively dating and trying to start a family and it just didn't work out? Or were you off touring as a musician or something and just putting off family life?

The context matters a lot. [/quote]

So I graduated with a degree in petroleum engineering and from the age of 23 until 38 I was based outside the United States mainly in Africa Angola, Gabon and Nigeria and for a few years in Saudi Arabia. So I spent all my 20s/30s working in my dream job and still do but I am not longer on the field.[/quote]

Are you used to relating with women regularly? Sounds like you were in a male-dominated profession in places that typical American suburban women can't relate to and where you might have been dateless.  Are you screening for women who are interested in travel and foreign culture?  Maybe you need someone who is open to seeing the world not a stay home and have kids type?  There are definitely adventurous women out there who want to raise little globetrotter kids.  Not b.s.'ing you  - there are probably some laid-off feds and USAID contractors out there looking for a total life overhaul who might be perfect matches for you. I'm only mentioning the layoff situation because I bet a lot of those people are looking for life transformations/ reinventions right now and it appears you are too.  Normally it might be offputting to date someone who is in a precarious financial situation but we are living through weird times for globally-minded professionals in the DMV.

Sounds like you might be an introvert also.  That can make in-person dates tough.  Maybe think about the venues you select?  How about a trip to a Smithsonian museum and museum cafe date instead of just a restaurant?  Something that gives a window into your interests or background while still being public and safe.

You may be getting dates due to your lack of baggage but there are things about your personality that are red flags.  Describing marrying before 40 as "settling" would be one for me.  "I lived with someone for 5 years and it didn't work out" would be more comforting.  Are you blunt or awkward?  If so, you need to figure out why.

Now I'm going to say something really awkward myself.  I've known more than a handful of lame guys in love marriages (not arranged marriages) with Ukrainian and Russian women (met organically during work, study abroad, or U.S. study).  An average salaried US guy is a real trade-up from men from their culture.  Because of reduced sexism in the U.S. and overall more life opportunities.  Just noticed one of these ladies is now a corporate VP of Comms at a multibillion $ corporation after meeting her husband in a very mediocre VA grad program.  Worth thinking about.  Absolutely don't get involved in scams...I'm just mentioning an opportunity area that might not have occurred to you.[/quote]

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