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[quote=Anonymous]I think OP is saying that DD will do a lunch or manicure or museum, but grandma isn't happy with that. Grandma wants a whole day of grandma babysitting and being in charge.

Sadly, OP, I don't know how you do anything you aren't already doing. Keep offering things, but help your DD reinforce whatever her time constraints are. "Thanks so much for meeting me at the museum, Grandma! I had a great time with you. Now I have to go work at the snack bar/babysit for the Joneses/go to the pool for Larla's birthday party. I'll see you again next weekend!" Or whatever.

My mom gets similarly annoyed when the grandkids can't attend things, but she blames it on sports. (As in "who the heck plays lacrosse on a Sunday morning?! What do you mean you have to swim every day except Tuesdays? We are eating dinner without you because you have to go to basketball practice -- can't you skip it?!)  My sister and I just ignored her and let the kids keep on keeping on. They make time for the grandparents, but not at the expense of their other commitments. Mom is not happy, but she also choses not to attend hockey games, swim meets or basketball tournaments.

All of that said, my mom and my DD have bonded over manicures. They have a lovely time getting their nails done. Maybe that would give them a standing date together?

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