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[quote=Anonymous]Recently I was at a party with a bunch of parents from my kids' school and I realized halfway through the party that I was the ONLY woman there who wasn't wearing a kind of specific suite of jewelry -- large, sparkly engagement ring + wedding band, at least one but usually multiple fine jewelry pendant necklaces with kid's initials or other child representation, diamond studs or hoops.

I have a very modest engagement and wedding band (simple gold bands, the engagement ring has a few small inset diamonds -- to be clear I love them and like how wearable they are) and I sometimes wear simple gold studs. We are middle class and while I guess my husband could stretch to buy me expensive jewelry, it just doesn't seem like a priority and I feel that money would be better off invested.

But realizing I was the only one who didn't have these items made me feel mildly self conscious and I wonder if other people look at me and notice I don't have any "jewels", and specifically that I don't have any clearly expensive jewelry that was likely given to me by my husband.

I am sure if asked these women would say it's just a style preference, these are just things they like, it's not about status. And I think consciously that is true. But I think of historically how engagement rings and the jewelry a husband gave his wife were very much about status and security for women. I don't know. It just made me feel weird.

On some level it almost makes me feel pressured to ask my husband to buy me jewelry to fit in with this but I know that's weird and not really within my values. But it's just strange to feel like an outlier in this way within your social circle.[/quote]

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