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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  I don't remind people about my birthday but I take my friends out for their birthday (just did that last week--took a friend our for a birthday brunch).  I invite them, choose the restaurant from one I know they like, and pay.  This has never been reciprocated which makes me sad.[/quote]

I’m the one who asked that question. For a variety of reasons, I was not exposed to friendships growing and didn’t have many. I’ve spent my adulthood trying to figure it out. In my experience, the people with the most love and community don’t bean count like you just did. They give what they are able to do based on their energy and emotion. I would never hear from them that they took someone to birthday lunch and the person didn’t reciprocate- even when it’s true! They remind me when it’s their birthday. Years they want parties, they throw their own.

So basically they put out love and get those bids reciprocated. But they are not upset that other people don’t first put out their own bid. They don’t get hung up on being forgotten or not remembered. They focus on their side of the street.[/quote]

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