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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow! My kids are younger, but I cannot imagine prohibiting a 22 year old from going on a trip to Florida… or being prohibited smth by my parents as a 22 year old. 
How do they learn to make their own choices and learn from their mistakes?[/quote]

There are mistakes and there are mistakes. Hanging with with that character may not be a learning experience you come back from. [/quote]

But don’t you expect them to be able to make their own judgment calls on these things at 22? Honest question.

Again, my kids are younger, so I do not have that experience with my kids yet, but as a 22 year old, I lived in a different country from my parents, had a job, made decisions about career, moved to a different city, decided not to move in with a bf, knew when to extricate myself from situations, etc.

I would see it as a sign of disrespect and boundary crossing if my parents went to forbid me from making my own choices… and I would not become as confident in making my own choices and as independent as I did if my parents were telling me what to do/not do at that age…[/quote]

DP. OP’s kid is 13. Not 22.  You do your best to guide them at 13 so they can make good choices when they are on their own at 22.  Why do you keep asking about 22? [/quote]

I’m the PP with the 22 year old. I mentioned my tactics is culturally acceptable for us even though it’s unconventional for Americans. In our family, no one needs to walk a tightrope. The kids are allowed to express their opinions to us no matter what it is, and we’re able to do the same. There’s not only one way to skin a cat. We felt strongly about our son going to a possible hedonistic trip to South Beach and staying with some millionaires he’s never met, who gets chauffeured around. We use our wisdom, and expressed to him that we were not comfortable with the trip - We paid for other trips. He decided he didn’t need to have every experience under the sun, that one included. He could have decided to go anyway, but we longed ago built the type of relationship where they trust and respect our opinion. 
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