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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You're not alone.  I'm 54 and have become basically asexual.  I used to love kissing and sex.  Hit me about your age after a baby and soon after my DH falling down an ideological rabbit hole of Joe Rogan, Jordan Peterson, and other repulsive shitstains.  But even the fantasy of an affair or the early demise of my DH followed by the hottest guy ever after an appropriate mourning period holds no appeal at all.

I suppose you could go for testosterone HRT.  I've decided against that because my vaginal atrophy post menopause is so painful that I don't want to want it.[/quote]

I'm a DH who pulled out of an ideological nose dive. I fell into that rabbit hole looking for solutions to my wife not wanting to have sex much anymore. The first solutions I found (e.g. do more around the house, date night, touching with no expectations of sex, etc.) didn't do anything. So I kept looking and hit the manosphere. They offered things like work out and dress better, which ... sure. But then it was a little more questionable ... when you do have sex, make sure you act dominant. (How well that work isn't built in, depends on the particular woman's wiring and mood from time to time). Then more and more, it was tough to ignore the rampant misogyny and even racism. At first the misogyny seemed like an unfortunate side to what might be valuable advice (nothing else was working). But then it became apparent that the whole culture is a misogynistic shit show.

Our sex life never did come back, but at least she loves me and my family life is good. If I'd continued on with the red pill nonsense, my sex life would probably still be bad *and* my home life would be terrible. [/quote]

I believe you.  It happened to my ex and we used to be best friends.  I was shocked at what I saw in his communications to his affair partner.  Racist sh*t he never would have said in front of me.  I couldn't stay married to him, even if he hadn't been cheating and lying. [/quote]

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