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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kid just told me that he doesn't want to go to TJ even if he gets in. Same with his close friends. He said that everything feels like it's too much. These kids are straight A, supper involved, Algebra II in 8th grade type of kids. I can't gather if he is being serious. However, he has never opened up about the pressure of it all before so I think he is floating a trial balloon to see how we would react if he didn't want to go. Anyone else seeing this in their kids? Does TJ allow you to defer for a year? [/quote]

I am the parent of a student at TJ.  Please listen to your child if they prefer to remain at their base school.  My child has informed me there are many students who are struggling and miserable at TJ because their parents forced them to go even though the child did not want to attend.

TJ is stronger when every student is invested and eager to be there.

Also, your straight-A student has better university admissions chances from your base school than from TJ (where straight A’s are exceedingly rare).

Parents of applicants:  please listen to your children.[/quote]

Another gentle reminder of two realities:

1) At this time of year, you will see a staggering number of posts that are designed to get you to reject your offer of admission so that the kids on the waitlist will have a better shot;

2) You are far better off momentarily regretting the choice to go to TJ and transferring out within the first couple of months than you are potentially regretting the choice not to go to TJ forever. If you turn down the spot, you're not getting it back, and there's essentially zero harm in giving it a shot to see if it's the right situation. And if your child cares about school and wants to be around kids who also care about school, TJ is likely an excellent fit for them.[/quote]

You made the same accusation against my advice last time, though let me remind you PP:  1) there is no wait list yet, and 2) even were there a wait list in existence at this time, it would have zero effect personally as my child is completing their first year and has registered for sophomore classes.

Everyone else:  TJ is stronger when the entire student body is fully invested and eager to be there.  Please do not force your daughter or son into an academic environment where they’d rather not be. [/quote]

. . . . Why are you so eager to discourage people from giving it a chance?[/quote]

Wow, PP.  way to miss the point entirely.

Everyone:  notice how PP did not use the word “students” ?  She is asking about “people,” not  students.

It’s clear she cares not at all what students (mere children) want or feel about high school; she thinks the decision should be made 100% by parents. Isn’t that right, PP?

I’ve got news for you, PP:  the parents are not the ones who have to attend TJ.  The parents are not the ones putting in the long hours doing homework (although you might be one of “those” parents who do their kids homework for them).

The parents like you should stop living your dreams vicariously by forcing your poor child into any and every possibly advanced academic accomplishment simply to satisfy your own selfish ego.

But you asked why I am discouraging parents from forcing their reluctant kids who don’t want to go?

It is because of all the kids who slack on group projects while my child wants to learn. It is because of the kids who surreptitiously check TikTok during class, because they don’t want to be there.  It’s because to the minority of kids with poor attitudes, who would rather be with their friends at their base school.

I even created an s/o thread for you.  Go read it.
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Because you're exposed.  "People" could mean students, parents, or both.  Such a cheap shot. [/quote]

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