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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kid just told me that he doesn't want to go to TJ even if he gets in. Same with his close friends. He said that everything feels like it's too much. These kids are straight A, supper involved, Algebra II in 8th grade type of kids. I can't gather if he is being serious. However, he has never opened up about the pressure of it all before so I think he is floating a trial balloon to see how we would react if he didn't want to go. Anyone else seeing this in their kids? Does TJ allow you to defer for a year? [/quote]

I am the parent of a student at TJ.  Please listen to your child if they prefer to remain at their base school.  My child has informed me there are many students who are struggling and miserable at TJ because their parents forced them to go even though the child did not want to attend.

TJ is stronger when every student is invested and eager to be there.

Also, your straight-A student has better university admissions chances from your base school than from TJ (where straight A’s are exceedingly rare).

Parents of applicants:  please listen to your children.[/quote]

Another gentle reminder of two realities:

1) At this time of year, you will see a staggering number of posts that are designed to get you to reject your offer of admission so that the kids on the waitlist will have a better shot;

2) You are far better off momentarily regretting the choice to go to TJ and transferring out within the first couple of months than you are potentially regretting the choice not to go to TJ forever. If you turn down the spot, you're not getting it back, and there's essentially zero harm in giving it a shot to see if it's the right situation. And if your child cares about school and wants to be around kids who also care about school, TJ is likely an excellent fit for them.[/quote]

You made the same accusation against my advice last time, though let me remind you PP:  1) there is no wait list yet, and 2) even were there a wait list in existence at this time, it would have zero effect personally as my child is completing their first year and has registered for sophomore classes.

Everyone else:  TJ is stronger when the entire student body is fully invested and eager to be there.  Please do not force your daughter or son into an academic environment where they’d rather not be. [/quote]

I'm sorry, but your story doesn't seem to add up. Waitpool is officially one of the three categories for admission decisions as stated TJ's webpage.  If you're a TJ parent, you should be aware of that. More importantly, the suggestion to try it out for a few months rather than declining right away seems to make eminent sense from an opportunity cost standpoint. Why are you so eager to discourage people from giving it a chance?[/quote]

Different poster here.

The PP was saying that: 1) the TJ decisions have not been sent out yet so there is not a wait list at the time they wrote their post. No one is on the wait list right now because decisions have not been released. 2) And if there was, it wouldn’t impact their child because their child is a Freshman at TJ.

They are not discouraging anyone, they are giving advice. Kids attending TJ should be there because they want to be there and want the challenge, not because their parents told them they have to attend. A kid who wants to be at TJ is more likely to enjoy themselves and be successful. Kids who are forced to go are likely to be resentful and not as invested in the school.

Have you thought of the consequences of attending TJ for a quarter and then returning to your base school? Kids who do that probably feel like a failure and there could be negative consequences at their base school when they return. It could be hard to get a schedule that the kid wants and they could be teased for “not being good enough  to stay at TJ” by other kids.

I think it is good advice. The advice is geared more to the parents, don’t force your kid to attend TJ. Talk to your hcild, walk throught he pros and cons and let the child make the decision. [/quote]

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