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[quote=Anonymous]I think it can be a person clarifying what you are saying - to understand better -and it can also be a control method - a way to feel superior and belittle you.  I do it some for clarification - like he may say "this bugs me" and I will say "it bugs you, do you mean makes you frustrated?".  I am really just trying to get more information.

My husband will do a similar annoying thing, and he does it to everyone and everyone gets annoyed.

For instance - when talking about where to go to eat:

me "I don't know where to go for dinner, it all sounds the same, so maybe you have a preference - does a steakhouse sound really good to you or not?"
him "Steak is fine"
me "Yeah, but do you really want it or is it just fine?"
him "Steak is okay"
me "Well, I am on the fence with a steakhouse or anywhere else, so I figured we'd go out for a steak if it sounds really good to you, or somewhere else you want."
him "Steak is fine"
me "Well, okay, I get that is is fine or okay, I am not asking you that.  I am asking whether it sounds good vs. you just being willing to eat it"
him "I said steak is okay"
me "Look, nothing sounds that great to me, so I want go somewhere you really want.  If we are going to spend money on steak we should only go if it really sounds good.  I am just trying to find out if you really want it because the way you are coming across is that it is just acceptable.  I am just trying to get more information on your thoughts".
him "yes steak actuallly sounds good"

WTF?  Honestly, there are times we stay home because I don't want to go to the trouble.  Or he starts that and I stop after two tries and just pick something.  It is like he wants to play a game of giving very little information, and having me (or others) chase him down and beg for the information...[/quote]

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