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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I see both sides of what pp's are saying.  She should absolutely be commended for losing the 35 lbs - that's a lot, and takes commitment and work.  She doesn't deserve to be treated in any way that might embarrass her!

That said - you do seem to be in denial, OP.  I am 5'7 and 175 lbs, struggling with weight as well.  I'm a size 12-14.  Your daughter is not a size 14 at 5'4 230 lbs, and she doesn't have good eating habits unless she has a serious metabolic issue.  Her weight is a serious health issue that will likely only get worse as she gets older.  I suspect that the doctors saw it as a health issue - similar to if she were say, wheezing or had a twisted limb or something when she presented with a condition somewhat unrelated.

I suspect that what the pp's you see as rude are trying to imply is that your being in denial about her weight isn't helping her.  She should be commended but you both need to be realistic about her situation and keep supporting her - and that doesn't mean explaining and excusing the situation away.[/quote]

How is OP in denial?  Because she thinks her daughter is beautiful?  Because she doesn't think she is huge?  We don't know what this kid looks like.  We don't know her frame and how she carrier her weight.

The child is ON A DIET.  She is doing something about her weight.  Being overweight is perhaps the only condition in which you can be actively managing your condition and responsibly handling your illness and at the same time presenting yourself to the world as irresponsible -- because it takes time to manifest the results of your taking control of the problem.  And guess what?  OP cannot control everything that goes into her 16 year old daughter's mouth.  This child is 16, not 4.  OP can support her, educate her -- but she can't control her.

Some of the comments here are ridiculous.  Who cares if OP is "in denial."  Ultimately, this is not her problem.  It's her daughter's problem.   AND -- her daughter is doing something about it.  All good.[/quote]

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