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[quote=Anonymous]You need to back off, fully, immediately, and for good. Let's review some facts:

1) There is NOTHING you can do or say that will stop him from doing this. There's not! He's an adult. He's going to do what he's going to do. You've tried expressing your concern and he's blowing you off. Accept this reality: Whether you're "right" or not is not relevant. He's. Not. Going. To. Listen.

2) If he's rebelling against your cautious nature (or, ahem, penchant for lecturing), then by continuing to bring this up and express your concerns, you may very well worsen or lengthen this behavior. Yup. You can't make this better, but you just might make it worse.

3) What you absolutely can and will do with your actions and lectures is destroy your relationship with your son. This you can do easily and readily, and it sounds like you're already on that path. If you want a good relationship with your kid, you need to shut your trap. Complain to your husband, complain to your friends, journal, meditate, whatever you've gotta do, but vow right now that you'll never say a word to him about his personal safety again and protect your relationship with your kid, which is the one thing you DO have a say in right now.

4) Stop going on trips with him where he's going to take part in dangerous behavior! You need to accept it, but good lord, you don't need to fund it or stand there and watch it. Pick a different type of vacation![/quote]

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