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[quote=Anonymous]I'm a guy and I have two daughters, and certainly there was some initial disappointment in knowing that I'd never have a son, because I had plenty of stuff I wanted to teach a son about how to be a man, that I thought it took me a long time to learn.  But pretty quickly I got past that.

Your husband should be excited to have two healthy children, there are plenty of people who would kill to be in his place.

If it is about having someone to carry on the family name, get over it - on a long enough time horizon no one cares about stuff like that, unless he's in line for succession in the British monarchy, or he's a Kennedy or something.

If he continues to pout and act out (I had a friend who was very upset to have 3 daughters), then maybe you need to have him question his own masculinity.  Is he that hung up on the issue?  Is he a Pashtun?  Can he only be a man if he has sons?

I'm not a sensitive pony-tail man, but actually a former military officer, and conservative - and I know a lot of guys who are or were in various special operations units, and many, many of them only have daughters, and none of them seem to have concerns about if they are real men or not.  If it helps your husband you can tell him that studies show that men under high stress are more likely to have daughters (we are the ones who pass along the X or Y gene).  Maybe it's his job.  If he's religious you can consider that God wanted him to have daughters to raise.  I believe that raising daughters in today's society is probably tougher than raising boys because of our toxic, sexualized, and degraded culture.  So, maybe his role is to get his daughters through that because he's tough enough to turn out proud women - women who may have future grandsons he can spoil.

Finally, I think guys who have sons who do not grow up to be like them, often experience even greater disappointment.  If you have a son who really you are trying to have be a better or improved version of yourself, and he winds up being a man you can't respect, I think that can be devastating to a man.

At the end of the day he will probably be fine, but if he continues to pout tell him to man up and grab his sack.  If he had had the son he wanted would he be making his first daughter feel less valued because he finally got the son he wanted?  If he is a real man, then he'll be a good father to his offspring regardless of what their gender is.[/quote]

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