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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Until they have full on dementia, they can choose to do whatever they want. Old people aren't suddenly the property of or under control of their children. You don't have to participate in the risks they take. As long as they're not hurting anybody, what does this matter? Yes, your father may suffer a gruesome fall and you find them both deceased days or weeks later. But they would have left this world the way they wish. Not a slow, boring death in a nursing home, which is what is happening to my mother after my sister--who lived close by to her, then died unexpectedly months later--pretty much made her do it. Now I'm the only one left and I'm a 4-hour car ride away. So I have to drive 8 hours in a day once a month to go sit with her,  not really quite clear if she even knows which daughter she's sitting with, for an hour, and she sleeps all day every other hour of every other day of her life. Not a way to live. She wishes she had died years ago.[/quote]

Wow. You blame your sister in this? Why didn't you move closer to your mom and support her?

Let me guess- it 'didn't work' for you?[/quote]

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