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I wake up - go to work - come home - repeat.

What do I have to do to meet someone? 
I think I’m not normal or mentally ill or something. Why does no one like me?

[b]I have no friends or partner and yes I make 0 effort, however statistically speaking even if I make 0 effort I should have atleast a few people. [/b]But am I that unlikeable? Disgusting? Hard to look at? Worthless? 
I am a shame to this world and my species. 
Speaking of effort, I did try to initiate in high school, that never went well.

All this I keep in my head, I act normal in real life ofc I wouldnt go on this tangent at work. But I am just miserable from this.
No one likes me and Im ugly. That must be it. How do I help myself? [/quote]

Nope. Zero effort gets you zero friends. At least as an adult.  I'm highly introverted and don't have a lot of energy. It's resulted in my being unable to keep any friendships up. It takes real effort to do so, especially the older we get. I watched a video about why it is so hard to make friends and keep them as we get older and it is because you need 3 things: 1) proximity, 2) to basically be in the same stage in life or at least dealing with similar things, and 3) energy/vibe -- which is that thing where you just like someone and are willing to put the effort in to keeping connected. It's actually really, really hard to hit all three as an adult.

I have a DH (that was relatively easy for me, because of looks). Thank heavens for him, because he's great. But I really can't keep up with anyone else. Just truly don't have the energy.

I'm guessing you are not unlikeable at all -- you are probably totally likeable. It's just the zero effort thing. Know that you are not alone with this issue. Especially in an area like DC with many being so transient. [/quote]

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