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[quote=Anonymous]I think you have a decision to make because I’m hearing two different things in your email.  If the choice is between going on this trip as planned without him, or cancelling the trip, what is your preference?  I think either is okay — sometimes your priorities change with marriage and that’s okay.

If you want to go, I’d say “I totally understand if you don’t want to come but I really have been looking forward to this for so long I don’t want to cancel.  Of course I’ll miss you and you’re welcome to join if you change your mind — even if you only want to come for a few days.”  No guilt trip about it.  Just be upfront about what you want.

The other thing I’d flag is that you said this is a trip with your daughter and he wants to save vacation time for just the two of you.  That set off alarm bells for me.  How old is your daughter?  If she’s under 22, I would not ditch vacation time with her for your new husband.  If she’s an adult, that’s different but if you are cancelling I’d go out of my way to find a different special thing to do with her. 
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