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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Seems to me that irritating men more often do that play with words, while irritating women more often pout & say "nothing" when asked what is wrong. Both are like spoiled children. 
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Yeah, truth to this. DW here and I know I have some annoying communication habits I'm working on. What bothers me about DH is that is way of communicating...it's like he sees it as if he says something, or does something, and I take it one way, it's the wrong way. While this may be the case, it's like he is viewing communication as him controlling or owning the message, not taking into account that the reciever has some say. Might I be over-reacting sometimes? Yep. But that's almost not the point. In communicating this way he is saying his message being "right" is more important than my feelings etc.

I picture it as him throwing a football to me, and if I catch it, great, we are communicating well. If he throws it perfectly and I miss, okay that's my bad. But if he throws it 10 feet away and I scramble to catch it and miss, it's still my fault becasue I should have been there to catch it. His throwing is always "right." And the cliche, "You can be right or you can be married" is spot-on because over the years I have felt like his being right is more important than what I have to say or how I feel. It's a control thing.

It's hard for men and women because we really do have different communication styles. In therapy we are learning some tools to manage this since we both have work to do. I have to learn that not everything is personal. Working on that.[/quote]

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