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[quote=Anonymous]My son is only 4.5 (and my daughter is 3) but we do a LOT of consent talk, equally and in the same way with both of them.

If there’s some play fighting and one kid says no while clearly having fun and still playing, I jump right in and separate them. “Larlo said no, and he’s in charge of his body. Step back.” We never require or even encourage hugs and cuddles, that’s fully at the kids discretion. Heck even sometimes if I need some space and a kid is hanging over me, I’ll say “mama needs her arm back” and if they don’t let go, I go right to a strongly worded “I’m in charge of my body and I said no” and pulling my arm away.

I know in the grand scheme of things, these are all little things with no real consequences at this stage. But if there is ONE phrase I’d like my kids to automatically regurgitate in that “ugh, I sound like my mother” way, it’s “she’s in charge of her body.”

As he gets older, obviously there will be more explicit talks about what this means sexually. I’d also really like it if my son was the kid at the party saying “yo, not cool, she’s drunk. Tell her friends to take her home.” But those conversations are obviously years away. [/quote]

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