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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My aunt is moving into my mom's house to help care for her for an undefined period of time.  She'll prepare meals, drive to appointments, provide companionship.  No cleaning, lifting my mom, personal care, or skilled nursing care.  What can be done at the start of this to help this be a positive experience for everyone?  I'm thinking of conversations, decisions, check in points along the way.  The worst case scenario is hurt feelings near the end of life.

My aunt has good intentions.  She and my mom love each other.  My mom would say part of the reason they have a good relationship is they have lived thousands of miles apart their entire adult lives.  [b]My aunt loves to spend money and will inevitably spend more of my mom's money than my mom would like.  [/b]Right now my mom is ok with that in exchange for the companionship.

My mom is feeling lonely and vulnerable.  My aunt is bored in a small isolated community.  She owns her home (no mortgage) but has limited resources to live on and loves to spend money.  She started talking about moving in with my mom to care for her when my mom shared what she would be spending on assisted living.  (She had a spot and a move in date).  There are clear benefits to both my mom and my aunt.  I could see my aunt feeling unappreciated at some point.  I could see my mom getting tired of financially supplementing my aunt and feeling taken advantage of.  It seems this could end poorly for a lot of reasons.  Any advice?  [/quote]

What do you think your mom's money on?[/quote]

Sorry, that should say, what do you think your aunt will spend your mom's money on?[/quote]

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