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[quote=Anonymous]I am also intrigued by the responses that convey acceptance about sex as inevitable but sleeping, literally sleeping, in the same room being totally unacceptable. The first is where the dangers lie.

It is sort of collective denial. It seems most parents are okay with sex (or not willing to take the drastic measures that would be needed to stop it) but don't want to be perceived as being okay with sex. The only thing allowing sleepovers does is make permission obvious.

You all are deluding yourself. We allow it on occasions, to facilitate situations where they're getting back from something super late or leaving for something super early in the morning. I do feel some hesitation/fear judgement when I've mentioned it to other parents, but I often wonder why, since nothing is happening that wouldn't be happening if we didn't allow it. No one has actually expressed judgement, though, so this may be my own insecurity.

Obviously, talks have been had, contraception is in place. This was all long before relationship had gone on long enough for us to allow sleepovers. DC was already in 12th at this point, and significant other is one year older (goes to local college).[/quote]

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