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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My grandmother loved living on her own in her little house after my grandfather passed away - they didn't have a loving marriage and I think she was pleased to have the peace and quiet after many decades in two bad marriages. She always had a little dog or cat for companionship, she talked on the phone to her kids every day and saw extended family on holidays. I wish I'd spent more time with her when I was in college and building my career but she always told me she was happy, never griped and I think she understood I was busy building a life apart from my parents who hadn't treated me well as a child in their home. I definitely regret not spending more time with her - it's the one biggest regret of my life, because she meant so much to me when I was little - her home was the only peaceful refuge I knew from the chaos and violence of my parent's home. I kind of wish she had passed away on the operating table when her broken hip was being repaired. Before the surgery the doctors warned her that she might, and she said she was okay with that outcome because she'd had a great life. The years after the broken hip were a downhill slide that ultimately resulted in her having to go into nursing care because all her family was full time employed and nobody able to give her the full time care she needed. She slipped into dementia and the end was not pretty. Dying on the operating table after kissing us all goodbye just in case would have been a nicer end for her. I've spent the last decade working with primarily elders and because of what I've seen I am working hard to improve my fitness to preserve my independence and mobility late in life, but I am also planning my exit which I am determined to control and choose - assuming an accident doesn't get me first.[/quote] How are you “choosing” that?[/quote]
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