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[quote=Anonymous][quote=redquasar][quote=Anonymous]OP when he turns down the activities you suggest, what reason does he give? Does he have friends? Does he spend time with them outside of school? [/quote] he'll usually state that he has no interest and it will be hard to get motivated for that. He does some recreational volleyball at the Y but not a sports guy which is fine. He does orchestra in school and played last year in a very high level county band, but just went through the motions; no zeal. There is a pressure from colleges to be a "pointy' applicant which a unique passion. I disagree with that if it is forced and doesn't come from within. But turning down options at the buffet of opportunities before even trying them is tough. [/quote] Thanks OP. Is it telling to me that (1) you answered my question about why he doesn't want to do activities you suggest, [b]but you did not answer my question about friends[/b][i] and (2) you are thinking ahead to college application season. I agree with you that it's harmful to try to force passions onto kids. One way to help a middle schooler choose after school activities is to ask them what their friends are doing, as they might be more likely to join. Another is to give parameters. Tell him you he needs to join one school club of his choice. But I have a feeling your child needs to cultivate in person friendships this year. If I'm right, you should focus your energy on planning events and hosting other kids at your house. [/quote]
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