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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We just bought a house as first time owners. I’m really excited to make the place ours and am constantly looking for things I can fix up or decorate, etc., or looking up what we need to maintain the house. My husband on the other hand acts like the house is “done” (other than getting more furniture). It’s starting to  bug me that he’s not also looking for stuff to do around the house and it feels like I’m going to do a ton and he’s just going to free load. I’m not just talking about decorating; stuff has come off like a toilet stopped flushing or some outlets weren’t working and he doesn’t seem interested in dealing with it. If he’s not interested in decorating then fine but shouldn’t he at least fix things or find people to do it?

I want to have a talk about it but haven’t broached the subject yet. I’m sure I’m a little overeager with getting stuff done quickly, but it bothers that I’m putting in all this effort and he’s just like cool you do that. Is there a good way you’d suggest bringing this up without just saying hey can you do more projects around the house? Because I don’t think he’ll react well to that or know what to do with that. [/quote]

Quickly find out if his father or mother was the same way - can’t ID things that need fixing or improving and also not doing anything about it

We bought a house from a couple who were horrible homeowners with the deferred maintenance. And zero upgrades but the amount of lipstick on the pig and lazy homeowner stuff showers up big time in the inspection report and we knocked $300k off our contract price.

So hand him the inspection report, divy up the suggestions and put him in charge of a few and you a few others.

You’ll quickly find out if he’s a lazy homeowner or not, bad with talking with repairmen or not, good negotiating and running a bid process or a total lazy sucker, etc z

If he’s bad at everything, well then good luck, it’s all on you. And you had better home and pray he’s also not a slob, misogynist, and neglectful future parent to any potential kids.

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